**sings** Do you remember the 21st night of September...

We all know what September brings…..

A change of season…. No more 100 degree days.  Well supposedly, I mean down South it could be hot until Christmas, but you get my point.

My church has penned it “Supernatural September" and I have to admit things have been changing suddenly... supernaturally.

Recently I started reading Shonda Rhimes “Year of YES”.  I don’t know what I thought it was going to be about when I ordered it, but it wasn’t what I was expecting.  Maybe I was hoping for an inspirational book that would tell me that everything I ventured out to do would result in a yes, but that’s not what it was about.

Shonda (I’m going to call her by her first name cause I feel like we cool and stuff) decided to say yes to everything that was asked of her because in the past she always said no.  She didn’t like stepping out of her comfort zone.  I thought to myself, I want to be like Shonda.  But not the Shonda that is in her season of yes, the Shonda that used to say NO!

See for years, I’ve been saying yes to everyone and no to Dee.  Whenever Ari asked for anything, even if I didn’t have it or it seemed that I couldn’t do it, I made a way.  Whatever my ex-husband wanted, even when I thought it was stupid, if I was tired or just didn’t want to…. I still said yes.  My students are constantly calling on me to do things, because they know I’m going to help.  Even when I lost my daughter, during the longest week of my life while planning her Homegoing Celebration, I was still thinking of others.  “That’s Fine” became my response to everything.  I think that when women get the husband and child that they have been dreaming of since playing with Barbie and Ken, they become so consumed in a “dream life” they forget about themselves. 

Every time I want to say no I ask myself, “Is it wrong that I don’t want to?” But in the end I usually end up doing it regardless of how I feel.  I think because I am "spoiled" I feel like everyone should get what they want.  I HATE being told no, I figure no one else wants to be told no either.

So I decided that this season is going to be my “Season of No"! NO to things I just don’t want to do.  NO to things I just don’t feel like doing.  NO to things that I think are stupid.  NO even when it may hurt someone’s feelings.  I am just going to say NO. Now let me be clear about a few things:

First... I’m an adult.  I know there are going to be many things that I am going to HAVE to do that I don’t WANT to do.  So yeah, I’ll still pay those bills (deep sigh).

Second… This “Season of NO” isn’t about being mean or selfish.

What season do you need to move into? 

In just 3 days it will officially be Fall…. What season of your life do you need to “fall into”?

Don’t you think it’s time that you “Fall” into that business you’ve been dreaming of? 

How about you “Fall” into that vacation that you so desperately need?

Or wouldn’t it just be nice to “fall” up in the spa for a day?

Whatever you decide to "Fall" into, Fall with all your might!  Think of all those New Years Resolutions, YOU STILL HAVE TIME!!! Pull out that notebook and get to work!!!

2 the moon....

-Danielle LaVon

Image from @thechampagnediet Cara Alwill Leyba

Image from @thechampagnediet Cara Alwill Leyba

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