How to be Successful in Business?
Be Mentally Strong.
We have to network. Attend conferences and workshops.
We have to put aside our egos and ask for referrals and favors.
But, we also have to be mentally strong. Unfortunately though, that's one of the major keys to success that often go unexplained, ignored, and unmentioned.
So, what does it mean to be mentally strong and how does it translate to personal success? Here's how:
Being mentally strong means blocking out self-doubt and recognizing self-sabotage. In the age of social media where everybody is an instant success, or at the very least everybody is crafting their social media feeds to look as if they are an instant success, it's very easy to doubt yourself. You're putting in the work. You're making the contacts. You're even landing clients who lead you to more clients. But the clients and the money aren't flowing as quickly or as easily as you've been led to expect. So you doubt yourself and your efforts. And very often you consider quitting altogether. Don’t quit. I firmly believe that entrepreneurs with a certain passion, and dedication for providing a quality product or service, will eventually succeed. If they don't give up. You may have to give yourself a daily pep talk. Sometimes you may need it twice or three times a day. You've got to visualize yourself reaching your personal finish line. Mentally strong people understand that they have to believe in themselves and their ideas more than anybody else (yes, even more than your mommy believes in you).
It also means removing yourself from people and/or situations that breed negativity. Before I go further, I have to mention that this does not mean you have to surround yourself with yes men and women. We all need people who will call us out on our wrong doings or pull us back before we fall too deeply down the rabbit hole. But none of us need people around who constantly criticize our every effort without offering some advice on how we can do it differently or better. And that's how you know the difference between those who want to help you succeed and are willing to show you some tough love to help you get there versus those who would rather see you fail because they are absent of any aspirations or dreams of their own. We will call them "dream killers". Dream killers hate to see your moving forward because it reminds them that they're standing still. You'll notice that when you score big, they never clap. But, when you miss the shot (and everyone misses a shot along the way) they are front and center with a hearty dose of "I told you so!" Run away from those people as quickly as possible. It doesn't matter if they are your best friends, or your closest cousins. Leave them. You're better off alone than being surrounded by people whose only goal is to see you fail. Sometimes it's hard to create the separation, but the ability to do so is one of the defining characteristics of someone who is mentally strong.
It definitely means letting go of bad habits and forming new habits conducive to personal and professional growth. To be successful in business, you have to form and stick to a particular set of habits. This starts with identifying your personal areas of weakness and creating habits that force those weaknesses to the background. For example, I'm an introvert. For me that means it's very easy for me to stay home, in my head, and worry myself to death about how I'll get things done. That type of behavior is just about guarantees certain death to any business. To circumvent that particular bad habit, I commit myself to seeking and attending two-three networking events per week; identifying and connecting with at least one person per event; and then following up with that person via email to invite him or her to coffee. Make a list of the poor habits that are holding you back and devise an active plan for obliterating them. That's what mentally strong people do.
Another characteristic of the mentally strong? They follow their gut. It's ok to seek advice; we should all seek and benefit from the wise counsel of those we trust. But ultimately, we are responsible for our own decision-making. Being mentally strong means knowing what’s best for your and your business and unapologetically making the choices that best align with your goals. I often find myself more confused when I ask for direction from too many people. Decisions made amidst confusion are rarely going to be the best bet. So before you call on your caldron of collaboratives, think about what you really want and how you really feel. Following your gut is the mark of a mentally strong person.
Take some time to think about which of these characteristics you already possess and which you may need to sharpen as you move forward in your business or business aspiration. And remember that old saying: Only the strong survive. It’s applicable in life, and especially in business.
Dwaynia is the owner of Prose and Pens which provides writing, editing, content creation, and blogging services for small businesses and entrepreneurs.
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